Life can get crazy no matter what your circumstances are (mom, single, etc.) but sometimes it feels a little trickier to work through than usual. I’ve been thinking about this for sometime, and really didn’t know how I wanted to talk about it. But I would say, if you’re feeling overwhelmed, stressed, or depressed, it’s always good to get the conversation started with someone you trust.
From the general stress of work to feeling like I don’t have the best work-life balance to wondering if I’m not giving the relationships in my life the time they need—there’s a lot on my mind 24/7 and some weeks it really takes a toll.
I think this is something most of us struggle with, so I wanted to write a post and share a few things I try to prioritize whenever I’m having a particularly tough week. These things usually make me feel better, but also give the clarity I need to move forward in a more positive headspace.
Time with Austin
I don’t know how I got so lucky with Austin, but he really is an amazing husband and father. Sometimes I think he knows me better than I know myself because he will actually call out when he thinks I’m having a tough week before I even acknowledge it for myself. Time with him always makes me smile—even on the worst days. When I’m feeling like I don’t have time to connect or set aside time for us are when I need it most. And don’t get me wrong, we have our moments like every couple, but I totally came out ahead on that one.
Church and prayer
Prayer and my church have both helped me get through a lot throughout my life, especially when we experienced our miscarriage and I was coping with a lot of grief. Saying a quick prayer or going to church on Sunday play a big role in making me feel centered when I’m off balance and need that extra emotional support.
Being present with George
There are weeks where I feel like work has taken over and I’m not being present enough with George, which can trigger mom guilt fast. Slowing down a bit and taking the evening to just hold George or play with him and make him giggle does wonders for my mood. I know it sounds a bit cheesy, but his little smile really puts things into perspective and helps me not sweat the small stuff so much. Phones far, far away, or I’ll even go full tech detox if I need it.
Me time
I know a lot of moms struggle with giving time to themselves once they have a baby, but I’m here to tell you it’s OK. When I give myself “me time”—especially when it’s been a tough week—I feel like I can be a better mom, wife and friend. So be sure to take care of yourself in this way. Even if it’s something small like a solo coffee date or something more luxe like a facial, anything counts. It shouldn’t be put off or sacrificed because chances are it will only help you get to a better place.
Making Lists
Writing a list helps me put things in perspective and prioritize when my time is short. I write out things I need to do for work, things for the family, honestly anything. I literally can’t go a day without making a list — it’s therapeutic for me knowing I have an outline for my day and getting to scratch things off feels great!
Drinks with a girlfriend
You know those relationships I mentioned that I feel like I’m not giving enough time to? My girlfriends definitely fall into that category. A lot of my friends have kids so they get it, and even the ones that don’t are so amazingly understanding, but that still doesn’t mean I don’t feel guilty. Time with them not only makes me feel like myself again, but it also reminds me of the great support system I have in my life. It’s a great way for me to press the reset button after a hard week. And let’s be honest, a margarita never hurts.
What do you do when you’re having a tough week? Would love to hear about your experiences!
xx Ashley
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God bless you.
Gina
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Lisa